- Step One: Acceptance and Understanding
- Step Two: Get Help
- Step Three: Avoid Triggers
- Step Four: Relaxation – Reduce Stress
- Step Five: Avoid Halt Symptoms
- Step Six: Diet and Wellbeing
- Step Seven: Manage Thoughts and Feelings
- Step Eight: Hobbies and ‘You’ Time
- Step Nine: Goals
- Step Ten: Detox
- Step Eleven: Balancing the Brain Naturally
- Step Twelve: Avoid Relapse
Step One: Acceptance and Understanding
If you have decided that you want to quit smoking marijuana, albeit taking other drugs/alcohol, then you have already set foot on the road to recovery. That’s brilliant and well done!
The very first step to recovery is admitting to yourself that you have an addiction and that you don’t want to live like this anymore. You probably feel low and miserable and that breaking your addiction will be too hard. Yes, it will be hard, but know that things are going to get better, and your life WILL be better. Be positive – Think positive – You can do this!
How can a few pills from the doctor cure you? They often can’t, yet some people are naive enough to think that this is how it works. You must be prepared to work with yourself and put in some effort to make life better. You must understand that addiction is classified as a disease, like cancer or diabetes, so don’t underestimate it. It needs the same effort and often professional help to beat it.
It’s not your fault – you didn’t choose to be an addict. In the beginning, taking the drug/alcohol may have been through choice but it probably isn’t any more.
Step Two: Get Help
Get help – sounds easy enough doesn’t it? I know that many will read it and laugh – ‘I don’t need help’. That’s why step one is the first step – that’s where you need help first, help to realise and accept your addiction. Only then you can start rebuilding your life, because your life IS very precious.
If you are in the terrible black hole where you are having suicidal thoughts or you think that you may harm yourself, then you need to GET HELP URGENTLY. Tell someone – anyone. Keeping it to yourself feeds the thought, makes it bigger. Sometimes you can’t tell the people that you care about, but there are professionals: your doctor, the Samaritans, A&E, your teacher – anyone.
Check out the Help & Support page for emergency help.
YOU must believe in yourself, trust yourself and learn to define your own beliefs, values and identity.
YOU are important.
YOUR life is worth more than being a slave to drugs/alcohol.
YOU can achieve anything but right now you just need to achieve one thing – winning this battle with your addiction.
There is no shame in admitting that you need help for your drug abuse. It’s the bravest thing that you’ll ever do, and people will respect you for it. Doing so could be life-saving. You want to live and breathe and no longer be in chains to this evil drug. Only you can make this happen. You can seek professional help through your doctor.
Join a support group – if it’s right for you. You can be with other like-minded people who want to quit their addiction.
You can often find a sponsor/mentor (usually a recovered addict) to support you through your recovery. Maintain healthy relationships. You may have damaged a lot of relationships along the way, especially family relationships. Think about the relationships that are important to you. Why not work on rebuilding them if they are healthy relationships.
Strength comes from sharing problems and accepting you need help and seeking it. Get help by asking for it and know that life can get better.
Step Three: Avoid Triggers
Unfortunately, it’s best to avoid friends who you use with or who are related to your use. It will probably be one of the hardest things to do but you MUST try to avoid places where you buy your drugs from. Avoid doing the things that lead to drug/alcohol taking or remind you of your drug/alcohol abuse. Avoid being with people with whom you may have conflict. Of course, you cannot always avoid high risk situations but as long as you are aware of them you can be in control.
Try and avoid stressful situations and stress in general. If you are in a stressful relationship speak to your therapist. If it’s stressful at work speak to your employer. Try to learn coping skills to deal with the stressful situations. Often just talking about your problems can make them feel a lot less stressful.
Monitor your most positive days and your difficult days. See if a pattern emerges from which you can use to learn coping methods.
Step Four: Relaxation – Reduce Stress
Relaxation is an important part of recovery. You need to get enough rest and not push yourself too hard with work or other stresses. If you feel stressed, take a break: go for a walk, have a bath, listen to some music, meditate, practice deep breathing, call a supportive friend, do something that you enjoy. You NEED to find time to relax. When you are stressed, it always feels like you don’t have time to relax but you need to make time. You will feel better afterwards. Find what works for you and use your tools.
Step Five: Avoid Halt Symptoms
Hungry, angry, lonely or tired. These feelings can make your withdrawal symptoms a lot worse so be sure to look after yourself. Eat a good balanced diet. Eat regularly. Try to avoid stressful situations; just walk away from them. Try spending time with friends and family; don’t isolate yourself. Try to go to bed at a reasonable hour and aim for eight hours sleep.
Step Six: Diet and Wellbeing
Drug use harms the body by causing negative lifestyle changes such as irregular eating and poor diet.
Diet is one of the most important aspects of mental and emotional wellbeing. It is often overlooked as unconnected but how false this is. The road to recovery involves looking closely at your diet and making small but important steps to improve this.
Think how lacking in energy and tired you can feel after eating a big takeaway meal, a huge meal of any description, lots of sweets, pastries, chocolate not to mention fizzy, sugary drinks and alcohol. This is because of the huge sugar spike it gives your body and the excessive release of insulin.
Try to maintain a healthy diet, avoid junk food and takeaways, spend time making yourself something nice to eat. Try and eat nutritious food. Try to avoid too much sugar, avoid sugary drinks, avoid too much caffeine, and most of all avoid energy drinks.
See Diet & Wellbeing for more information.
Step Seven: Manage Thoughts and Feelings
We are often faced with that constant chatter inside our heads. Those overwhelming feelings of guilt, worthlessness, sadness, loneliness. All those negative thoughts. You need to try and replace your negative thoughts with positive ones. When you think you cannot continue and beat your addiction, tell yourself you can. You are better than that, YOU HAVE CONTROL.
Stop those negative thoughts from coming into your mind. They are the past, they are the future, they may never happen. Live in the present moment. Try practising meditation/mindfulness.
Be mindful and think about your decisions and actions before you do them in a way that observes, anticipates and evaluates the consequences if you make specific choices.
CBT is a very beneficial therapy to help stop the cycle of negative thinking. It can help with a wide range of symptoms from anxiety and panic attacks to depression and psychosis.
See the Alternative Therapies page for more information.
Step Eight: Hobbies and ‘You’ Time
Exercise is one of the first things to consider.
Exercising outside is a great option, whether it be walking, running, cycling to name but a few activities. Just getting fresh air is very beneficial and, if the sun is out, you will benefit from a dose of Vitamin D which the sun provides, and this can really lift the mood. Not all exercise requires going to the gym.
Exercise relieves and reduces both physical and psychological stress and can help you get rid of any negative emotions that you have been keeping in.
Exercise naturally and positively alters your brain chemistry to release endorphins which create a natural high and make you feel good. These are the same endorphins produced when you are taking drugs. However, abuse of drugs and alcohol causes an imbalance that interferes with a person’s ability to feel pleasure, happiness and satisfaction. Exercise during treatment will help you to reintroduce natural endorphins into your system. This re-educates your body so that it is capable of regulating its own brain chemistry and mood in healthy ways.
Find new hobbies to occupy your time. You may find that you have a lot more time once you quit your addiction. You could join a walking club or try yoga. Yoga is extremely good for the mind and body.
See Yoga on the Alternative Therapies page for more information.
You could take up reading, studying, learn a new skill or even learn to play a musical instrument. The list is endless! You could also do volunteer work; this will give you a sense of meaning and purpose. Helping others can be extremely rewarding.
Most importantly, just remember to take some ‘me time’ whatever that may be. You may just need a break or even just some time alone. Do what makes you happy apart from drugs/alcohol.
Step Nine: Goals
Set yourself small achievable goals. You cannot change everything overnight. You are probably doing one of the most difficult things that you will do in your life by quitting your addiction. Make small changes with your diet, lifestyle and relationships. Keep a diary and reward yourself with things you enjoy. Tell others so that they know you are getting better and they can remember and encourage you to continue.
Keep a note of how you are feeling each day and what things have affected your day emotionally. Make sure that you include the foods that you have eaten as you may begin to see a pattern in how you feel at certain times and following certain food intake.
Step Ten: Detox
Detox is the first part of addiction treatment and is best carried out under medical supervision and with support. During a drug detox your body is given time to flush away the harmful effects that your drugs/alcohol have caused in your body. Detox on its own is usually insufficient for a successful recovery. Detox is different for everyone although the symptoms are often similar. The severity of symptoms depends upon the specific drug and the duration and seriousness of your addiction. Sometimes, depending on the severity of the addiction, you may be offered prescription drugs to ease withdrawal symptoms. Some people prefer to go ‘cold turkey’ and do it alone. However, this is not always possible and can prove fatal. Detox can be carried out both as an inpatient or outpatient, private or NHS.
See Drug and Alcohol Detox for more information.
Step Eleven: Balancing the Brain Naturally
Supplements can help to naturally balance the brain chemistry to help restore the brains normal reward system to achieve happiness, pleasure and balance without the need for the use of drugs/alcohol. It’s good to work with a specialist consultant and not try supplementing whilst taking prescription drugs unless first discussed with a specialist or your GP. These methods of balancing the brain naturally can have profound results; a natural detox aimed at reducing toxic build-up in the body will help reduce inflammation in the brain and body thereby alleviating symptoms of depression, anxiety and illness.
Step Twelve: Avoid Relapse
The disease of addiction requires constant vigilance. You must learn to recognise the conditions that generally make you feel like you cannot cope without the drug/alcohol and learn to overcome the period and deal with it and try to avoid it.
Avoid stress and always remember to take your medication or supplementation if prescribed and keep using your tools. Don’t forget to rely on others for support and care.
As you begin your journey on your road to recovery, take a long, hard look at your life and the things which could make you happy and the things which cause you to reach for your addiction. Be positive and focus on trying to achieve the things which could make you happy, even if it is only one thing – having a positive focus helps you to leave the negative path. It may be that the events which led you to addiction cannot be changed, but the way in which you think about them CAN be changed and you can learn to use the experiences as positive reactions to lead you away from addiction. You can’t change what has happened in your life, but you CAN change where tomorrow will lead you.
Good luck on your journey to happiness and freedom from drugs.